Lady First?

“Who presents your group’s result?”
“…Lady first!” “Gentlemen” in the group snickered.
After a long boring discussion without result, girls are always lucky enough to get the final “honor”.

Scaling up the tiny fact, actually a joke though, we can see many “lady first” matters around us.

When a company is deciding a staff reduction plan, “lady first” runs. Women employees have more chances to be first selected on the list, in the same situation as they have to stand out as the first with more shining qualities to grab a position vying with men. Why? “Women are busy looking for a Prince Charming in their blossom; next, they see their husbands as the core of their life; subsequently, they may have a baby, their most concentration is natrually displaced to this most precious part of their body… How can women concentrate on their job?” An employer recruiting new employees may respond in this way for explaining “Men have superiority to get the post.” in the ad.

When it comes to the domestic tasks, “lady first” keeps company. People take it for granted again that women are the first select, who are born to dedicate themselves to the chores, including child rearing, old parents caring and infinite house cleaning, which require much patience and energy. However, men only focus to their jobs without distraction because there is such a super woman behind looking after his home in a perfect order, mute and voluntary.
It’s true that the separation between males and females is becoming smaller and smaller, while these stereotypes in mindset are still inevitable. Women are in inferiority more or less. Even worse, few who have no status or support are still struggling in an abyss of suffering. Therefore, we never give up the hope to find a balance, which saves the women and further more benefits the society.

Of course, yet I guess every lady would feel fairly happy when there is a gentleman holds a door open for her, saying “Lady first” in a polite and sweet way. That’s what “lady first” is really about!
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2:34PM, 06, Mar, 2010

commons of Charles

Heal the World :
as you mentioned above,art is quite a good way to criticize the unfairness in the world!


We Should Enjoy Our Rights! :
i have to say that i myself complain a lot.so it's nice to read this and take it as advice

My First Novel in Singapore(YSN) :
thank you for recommening this good book!in fact i'm still reading chinese novels now,so maybe i should start to read some english as you


My Life Capriccio In Singapore:
leaving far away from home can cause a lot of thinking.just enjoy your life as you have determined!


Right or Wrong :
the fact that everyone can express his opinion is based on that everyone should respect other's opinions.so we welcome different opinions and debete!


Applaud Women :
that is so true!i often wonder why the officers in MOE are all women!

The Experiences of Saying I-love-you :
talk about your own esperience as all the people have asked above~


I have a dream:
yes,we always have this kind of dreams and those are reasons why people will fight for a better life.

Female in my hich school class:
powerful women,as i have talked in my blog.

Applaud Women

MOE sent several officials to receive us in the airport when we first arrived in Singapore. To my surprise, all the officials were women. It was 11 o’clock at that time! Several days later, I was surprised again by knowing most of the officials in MOE were women. Now I get the point. As a consequence of the sex-role revolution, today women’s statue is higher than before. We can see the changes in two aspects.

First, the statue of women in the family becomes higher. In ancient times, it was very common for a man to marry with several women. In the family the women had no statues. If a man wanted his wife to die, she had no choice but to die. Otherwise she would be regard as a traitorous woman. Nowadays women are equal to men in the family. In most countries it is illegal to have several wives at the same time. What’s more, many women work outside to support their family. While men stay at home, do the homework and look after babies.

Second, the discrimination for women in the society disappears gradually. In the old days, women were not allowed to work outside. Even in the middle of the 20st century, some company clarified clearly they didn’t hire women. Women usually are considered as weak and incapable. Stereotyping makes it easier for discrimination to occur. In fact, women are more careful and affectionate. Besides, I think some women are stronger in mind than men. So nowadays you can see many women work outside. A survey shows that the proportion of employed females to employed males is about 45 to 55.

Women even work in some particular professions which previously were almost all male such as the military, administrators, police officers, judges. Do you remember the aerobatic flight in the military parade of celebrating china’s 60th birthday? We were lost in their aerobatic performance. Do you know who controlled the planes which sprayed the colourful frog? The pilots were all women! Amazing! They completed their performance without a single mistake. Everything they did in the sky was perfect. They are real heroine.

Generally speaking, women are affectionate and careful. Nobody can discriminate women in the society. They have proved themselves capable by their own endeavor. As we can see, women make great contributions to our society nowadays. Shouldn’t we applaud women?

Human Rights in the World

To begin with,which countries or regions do you think are most democratic in the world, the United States? Taiwan? Or some other western countries? Well,most of you will give me the above answers,because people in these countries or regions have their rights to vote,to select the President they like,to declare themselves without any fear.In Britain,labour unions will direct a march if their labourers are not satisfied with the salary.In Korean,even Buddhist monks will revolt against the government when they think there is nothing to do.But what about other developing countries in Asia,Africa,and South America.People there live in a low life standard,they work all day along to get food and clean water.Even though, many people are starving due to the unfair social system. What they really lack of,perhaps,is not how much money they can earn, but how important they are,or in what way they are treated in their own country.When people have access to the right to declare themselves,they will be strong enough to get the power to govern the country. When a country runs properly and democratically, people's life standard will improve dramatically. That is how developed countries developed over centuries.
As a Chinese, I think, about a hundred years ago,people like Sun Zhongshan,Cheng Duxiu had already knew what a new democratic China looked like.And I do believe that today's China is in its way to find and achieve the unique eastern democracy!

Heal the World

There is a place in your heart
And I know that is love
And this place could be much brighter than tomorrow
And if you really try
You'll find there's no need to cry
In this place you'll feel there's no hurt or sorrow
These are some lines of lyrics taken from Micheal Jackson's famous song--Heal the World which expresses his dream for a totally harmonious,equal and peaceful world.

Before this week's learning about human rights and studying into some cases,I didn't expect there exist so many people suffering and so much abuse,inequality,disrimination in our world.I thought people who are going through miseries only accounted for a small percentage of the whole population.But it turned out that I am extremely wrong.

In Muslim areas there are many limitations and discimination toward women.Women are not allowed to go out alone unless they are with their fathers,husbands or sons.Nor can they talk to men outside their families.If they are found doing so,those so-called moral policemen can whip them at once without giving women chances to explain.
How cruel it is!Women also have their own contributions to their communities,societies and the whole world.They deserve equal chances to work ,to get paid and to fulfill their dreams as men.

Now I can fully understand what my class teacher said to us over and again in our senior high school."I don't expect that all of you can become celebrities in the future.But at least you ought to be an upright and kindhearted people.If after all your years' efforts,you become rich or important in this society,please please don't forget there are still poeple suffering around you and please please try your best to help them.Maybe years later you can't remember my appearance or even totally forget me,but please remember my words.Then I can say as a teacher I am successful."

As the younger generation who will build our future world,we should realize our responsibility to heal the world and bravely take on it.

As Micheal Jackson sings in the song:
Heal the world
Make it a better place
For you and for me and the entire human race
There are people dying
If you care enough for the living
Make a better place for you and for me
And the dream we were convinced in
Will reveal a joyful face
And the world we once believed in
Will shine again in grace

We Should Enjoy Our Rights!

Have you ever sensed that many of us spare a lot of time to complain about things around us？ We would complain about our living conditions, or our studying and so on. We think we live the most miserable life in the world and we are the most unfortunate ones of all the people!
But do you know why do we complain about this much? Sometimes we complain merely because we come across certain difficulties, and they are so difficult that we would complain about it unconsciously. But in more cases, we complain by the reason of the dissatisfaction towards what we already have or achieved in our life, we pour much of our desire on things which do not belong to us right then. Maybe it is a human nature to desire for more, but do you know even if we are allowed to have whatever we demand for, we will go on to have more desires.
Maybe it is because we are qualified with so many rights and we enjoy so many privileges in our lives that we take everything in our life for granted. We exaggerate the value of the things we don’t have and underestimate the value of the things which belong to us. These contradictions make us feel more exhausted, and thus spending more time on complaining.
As a Persian proverb puts it “I complained I had no feet until I met someone who had no feet!”
This proverb shed a new light on my mind that we should not ignore those who are in a poorer condition than us. We should it keep in mind that while we are sitting in such a highly equipped room, there are large quantities of students even don’t enjoy the right to go to school; while we are showing our dissatisfaction towards our cell phones, we should inform ourselves that so many pupils in some parts of the world are employed to work ten hours a day or more to earn money for their families. Compared with them, don’t we think we are the happiest in the world?
What’s more, some statistics show that the index of happiness in some rural areas is averagely higher than that in urban areas, especially in developed countries. The reasons are given as the people in rural areas appreciate what they occupy more, and they set their goals in life much more appropriately! Even they are not that well off, they are happier.
We should happy enough, because we are given all the rights we should be equipped. But we take them for granted too often and forget to give thanks to all the rights we have and the things we earn.

My First Novel in Singapore(YSN)

Recently, I have read a book named . At first, I just picked it up accidently in the corner of a bookshelf in centre library. I didn't realize how interesting it is then.
Acturally, the plot is a little bit old. However, it attracts me a lot. It is a combination of both dry, dessicated mysteries of Egypt's religion of death and bright splendour of Greece. Somewhere far away, there lived such a group of people. They were brave, diligent and superstitious. All the work were done for the Archon, who had the highest position of the whole country, except the God. The God did exist according to the novel. But he never showed up. The only one he talked to is the Speaker. The Speaker was in charge of announce what the God had said to all the citizens. So, of course, the pure citizens would do whatever as the Speaker said. Also, there must be a General who controled the army.Unfortunately, the Speaker and the General were not as innocent as their people, they betrayed the Archon, the God, and the whole country.
The Rain Queen was angry with them. So, through the years, not even a drop of rain came. However, Mariny(the leading role) saved all the people from the endless drought. She used to be a vulnerabe girl. After the puppet Archon killed himself out of guilty, she was selected as one of the Nine which was also a high position. She was choosen because she was silly. But she turned out to be the very person who destroyed the betrayers' dream. The process was difficult and dangerous, making the plot undulate. Anyone wore a kind smile could be a spy. Anything which seemed to be achieved might turn out to be a mirage. Under the shadow of the traitors, everyone suffered from drought, scorching and stifling murk. Every time Mariny was doing something slinkingly for the people's sake, my heart would be trembling as hers, too. I was affraid that she was caught. Finally, she found the genuine Archon, a ten-year-old boy who had been waiting for them
for many years. Then they made him the new Archon and brought the rain.
The good must win while the evil must die. It seems to be the certain ending of most novels. So is this one. Even though I hate it when the Speaker and the General did their conspiracy. I have to admit that sly people have true love. They loved each other for years. The tragedy derived from their going on a wrong way which never allowed them to return. When the Speaker died, her lover's life became weightless.
I recommend this book to all of you. Although there're many new words, you can always enjoy immersing yourselves into the unique Egyptian and Greek world.