Recently we have attended quite a few lectures on majors because we will choose our majors in the coming April.Although we can't say with certainty that the choice we made now is to determine our future,it does have a great influence on which path we will take after we step into society.Asking my friends which subject they would like to major in,however,I was somewhat surprised by most of their replies:"I haven't decided yet.I'm not so clear about my interest. ""I'm a little bit aimless.Er...Maybe statistics or maybe IS whatever."
So here comes the problem:Most of us don't know what we really want.In other words we even don't have a specific goal or dream to pursue,to motivate us.
Actually I was upset about such problems as well when I was in my final year in senior high,desperately trying to figure out what I really want in my future,what I suppose myself to be in the future.Since I started my school life,my only goal had been competing for the first prize in every examination.In addition,I had been so obedient a daughter that no matter what my mother told me to do,even though I felt unhappy ,I would obey.My mum wanted me to learn Olympic mathematics,then I went to Olympic mathematics calss on weekends,never skipping a lesson.My mum wanted me to learn calligraphy,then I went to calligraphy class during my several summer and winter vacations and kept practising at least 2 hours a day during school time.My mum chose the schools I attended,the books I read, the programmes I watched,the activities I took part in,the food I ate,the things I used in my daily life...All those years I lived under my mother's direction.She,instead of myself,palnned my path.As a result,when faced with the decision on what to major in my university,I suddenly realized that I was totally aimless.I even never thought about my future.Every day I was only lost in piles of exam papers,struggling to get good or excellent marks.
In such a situation as long as you get numbed,then everything appears fine.However,once you are awoken,you will feel that you are at a stormy sea,thunders blasting around interspersed with flashing lightnings,but without any clue to escape,any clue to find your destination.I remained anxious for quite a long time,pondering upon my past,analyzing my characteristics,trying to find my niche.After that painful period of time,I finally figured out my coordinate in life.It is extremely elated to be aware who you are now and what you want to be.Now the storm has gone and bright sunshine is shining above your head.You can see your direction clearly and strive for your destination enthusiatically.Every day is refreshing and lively because you have a goal ahead,you have a nice dream to pursue.
But now even though I have a dream,it seems that I have little chance to realize it--I want to be a diplomat.In fact I did apply for the Foreign Affairs College after my NCEE results came out.What is a tragedy for me is that my marks are enough but I was kicked out due to my a little bit lower height than its standard:(.Here in Singapore we are only allowed to choose majors from engineering,science and computing,but Ms.Leo said that if I want to be a diplomat,I'd better study in the law school.So again I feel perplexed about my future.
What does the future have in store for me?Maybe it is determined by myself,but there does exist something in my life that I can't control...
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Since you have come to Singapore, it the best time for you to start designing your own life. Whatever you choose, you have friends who support you, help you ,and sometimes alarm you. Anyway, wish you good luck.
ReplyDeleteTouched by your numb obey to your mother. I was once that kind who lisenting to everything to my parents and seniors, but later awake my thoughs, but still I don't know what I like, I don't know how to decide, I cannot control...
ReplyDeleteBut I am convinced that it's not what the future has in store for you, but what you have in store for future that make a difference.
Glad that you have known what you want and decided to endeavour for it. You have a fairly good mother in fact. How i hope my mother could require me to learn so many things. If so, studies wonn't be so hard to me now. After all knowledge is wealth and more than wealth.
ReplyDeleteEveryone says interest go first, but the problem is that what is my interest?
ReplyDeleteI have asked myself the question for more than once but I still don't get the answer. So it's very good for you to find your interest, no matter what major you attend at last, don't feel too much about that, if it once start, never stop. Interest doesn't equal to the major, so does the job you take in the future. Give your expect and confidence to the days around, that's the most important thing yet.